A positive influence.
It is commonly known that children are born without social skills or any social knowledge for that matter and are quickly on the hunt for persons to imitate. Their go-to person is more often than not one or both of their parents.
It is a parent’s role to nurture and guide their children down the path to a happy life and success. When a child is younger a parent will lay out the blueprints for what is considered ‘appropriate and acceptable behaviour’. This may include saying ‘Please’ and ‘Thank you’ where required or teaching that hitting and any other form of violence and bullying will not be tolerated. Once a child reaches school age than other influences come into play such as teachers and even the child’s peers. Some new bad behaviours may be learnt and quite possibly some very good behaviours.
The simplest and easiest way to teach a child is to act rather than say. Co-Founder of Queens without Scars and Mrs Galaxy National Finalist, Kim Cancellier is quick to agree saying “a child will follow our actions more than listen to our words, it is important that we lead by example”.
Mrs Cancellier believes that being consistent in teaching and setting examples is vital in ensuring a positive outcome when it comes to her children’s development and future. In order to set an example for her 2 young daughters (Indianna and Montanna) Mrs Cancellier fundraises and assists a variety of charities such as the Children’s Hospital at Westmead, White Ribbon, Teal Wings of Hope and most recently, the Make – a – Wish Foundation and to date has played her role in raising over $60,000, is a regular blood donor with the Australian Red Cross, speaks internationally on the topic of Domestic violence and women’s empowerment and is a board director for an Ovarian Cancer Charity all while her and her husband manage 2 successful companies.
Kim is firm on teaching her daughters that true beauty comes from within and even uses pageantry as a way to show this. Over the past several years Mrs Cancellier has competed in charity based pageant systems such as the MAQuest, with her most recent journey being with Australia Galaxy Pageants. “Via pageantry I have been able to show my girls that yes, while looks do play a part in society, it’s what the heart has to offer and a persons inner beauty that will make the biggest impact. A pretty face will fade but a beautiful soul will carry on and will be what people remember you for”.
It is important for parents to remember that as humans, we all make mistakes. We are not perfect and we should never expect our children to be either. By teaching our children how to take responsibility for their actions and that actions can and do have consequences will allow them to learn, adapt and grow.
Remember, there is no shame in admitting when we are or have been wrong. Having your children see that when you have made a mistake you make the attempts to make things right will give them the understanding that it’s ok to not be perfect. Being a positive role model for your child is the most rewarding thing you can do for them.
TIPS FROM AGP NATIONAL FINALIST, KIM CANCELLIER:
– Practice what you preach and lead by example. Kids are watching even when they think you aren’t.
– Admit your own mistakes and have an open discussion about how you can right your wrong.
– Be respectful towards others and their opinions. We are all entitled to have our own beliefs even if others disagree.
– Include children in family conversations from choosing what to have for dinner to where to do on a family vacation. This is one of the best ways to show that your child’s opinion is important and also to teach them about the importance of compromising.
– Remain positive in your speech, attitude and your actions. Lead by example.
– Teach your children the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle, regular exercise and a healthy eating plan. Try avoid making negative comments about one’s body and focus on the positives. Healthy body, healthy mind.
– When dealing with teens speak with them openly about drugs, alcohol and sex; the effects they have and the risks involved. Teach them the importance of not succumbing to peer pressure and why it’s important to stand strong on their personal beliefs.
Remember, parenting won’t always be easy but it will always be worth it and watching your child blossom and grow into the amazing upstanding person they were destined to be will be the greatest gift you could receive (second to your child of course!)